Fundamentals of intercultural communication

“The many factors that divide us are actually much more superficial then those we share. Despite all of the things that differentiate us – race, language, religion, gender, wealth and so on – we are all equal concerning our fundamental humanity”. Dalai Lama

It is more important to concentrate on what unites humanity rather then divides. All of the imagined customs, religion, language, cultures, were all invented by us, humans, to differentiate ourselves from each other, but also to make it easier for ourselves to make sense of our complex world. They are all models, artificial paradigms that direct people through life.

By studying intercultural communication, we can help reduce xenophobia that exists across cultures. We also share inter-nationally and inter-culturally our love for beauty and love.  By using our existing international language of love and beauty (i.e. art, music) it can provide us with a common ground to establish an understanding across cultures. Humans are incredible creatures. They share similar values everywhere, but name them differently.

Xenophobia is defined as “an unreasonable Fear or hatred of foreigners or strangers or of that which is foreign or strange. It comes from the Greek words ξένος (xenos), meaning “stranger,” “foreigner,” and φόβος (phobos), meaning “fear.”

Comments from Paulo Coelho’s blog:

“Life means adventure, change, things that not everybody has the courage to face and accept. When one sees someone who is unfamiliar, a subconscious fear springs up” (Ruth)

“Xenophobia isn’t just the fear of strangers, it’s being afraid of what happens between different generations. Most people are afraid of today, they prefer to live in the past. My country (Russia) is an excellent example of this”. (Dasha)

“Here in Denmark we have a festival that lasts about a week and attracts 100,000 strangers to celebrate life, share common interests and learn from the differences. People embrace for no reason except being on the same path, they sing and get drunk together. When the festival is over, a strange atmosphere takes over the town again, and strangers are once more seen as a threat”. (Warrior of Running Water)

“People in my country (Poland) lived through the tyranny of Hitler and the Soviet oppression, and they don’t seem to have learned anything. It terrifies me to see people who experienced the horrors of Nazism behaving the same way today, avoiding everything that is unknown or different. The worst of it all is that they use religion to justify their acts, arguing that all those who aren’t Christians should be banished from society. This blind faith is worse than having no faith at all”. (Radek)

The definition of home.

What is home? For some it is a house, for others - people.  For others it is where them and their loved ones are. No mater where in the world, no matter what cultures they are endorsed into. As long as they have their close ones next to them, they are at home.

Home for us is where we feel free, where we feel needed, where we feel the belonging. Home can be anywhere where there is a feeling of warmth and genuinity from people who surround us. We want a place where we can be accepted the way we are and do not have to constantly prove ourselves. We want a place with occasional sad faces, we don’t want to be only surrounded by fake smiles. We want to be able to read into people’s minds, their worries, try to understand them, try to help them.

We want a place where we can have time to care about other people. We also want a decent level of life, we want some certainty in the future where we see a good future for our next generation. We want to be living in communities where there is a sharing of values, where people have a common goal to pursue. Decent life does not cost much, if we construct it in a clever way, it can cost nothing. Money were invented by us people anyway, as a product of exchange. It can be replaced by the sharing of knowledge and capabilities.

We can all feel home wherever we are.

The beauty of silence

Silence of the north teaches you that the eyes can see until there is nothing to see, and the ears can hear even there is nothing to listen to, and we can understand when we cease to understand at all.

One of the major reasons why I love Scandinavia is because of its peace and quite. But cold temperatures do not mean that people are. It is often noted by others outside Scandinavia that Northerners are more difficult to approach. This is not true, it just takes longer to get to know them. They take relationships much more seriously than many other nations an cultures.

Love for quietness is very common for northerners. It means that the tacit communication in the environment with the people or even in absence of the people has meanings and messages. An important point is to never lose your sense of humor – whatever happens we should not stop to laugh at ourselves. 

Question everything. Search for meaning.

We search for the meaning in everything we do. Otherwise what is the point one might ask. Stop. Think. Do we question ourselves why we are having hundreds of friends, do we question why we go out and have fun every so often. What is ‘fun’ anyway. Are they occasional moments of our life when we displace ourselves from our boring everyday existence and get lost in a drunken couple of hours. Why not invest some time and energy in building up on a life that we dont want to escape from. Why do not let our hobbies, our passions become our way of making a living? What if we create a life we love and do not want to escape from. Where we can be in the moment, be happy.

When we find that inner strength, the knowing we have inside of ourselves, life seem much easier, and simpler. What is the point of overanalysing, over thinking anyway? Whatever in meant to be, will happen. All we have to do, is do our best, make ourselves happy by pushing our limitations, not forgetting that they are as subjective as anything else in this world. Humans are incredible creatures; they are capable of at least ten times more of what they think they are. Believe in oneself and everyone else will believe in us.

Of course, it is never that easy. Being an individual is difficult when we are tied to social environments. We have family, our close ones are sometimes in need of our help, they need us to share their unfortunes, ills and downs. Stay creative with own thoughts during these moments, not letting them drown us. Invest our time and energy, showing our compassion, and seeing it as a positive. When helping others, we consequently make ourselves stronger, receive that extra energy, extra push to hold on to our personal believes and our dreams. By helping others and caring about what is going on around us in the world, does not let us concentrate too much on our personal problems, that can only push us to the bottom and will make others around us weaker. For the sake of the loved ones around us, stay strong.